Suck it up Buttercup…Time to Show Up!

BY Heather Zollman 
July 21, 2018

“Keep showing up Heather.”

This is one of the best pieces of advice I ever received from a friend.  We were talking about business stuff.  It was during a time when I was questioning how to stay relevant in my work.  He said simply…keep showing up.  This has helped keep things in perspective for me, not only with work, but with everything!  Family, teaching, friends, MYSELF…keep showing up.

So what does it mean to do this?  Well, I think it’s different for everyone right?  With your children…do we get up each day and just go through the motions doing all the routine stuff?  Or do we show up for them in a way that is meaningful?  Of course we all want to be the in tune, present parent.  Well, that’s a conscious decision.  The decision to listen instead of to keep looking at the phone when they are talking for instance.  Being on a team…do you want to be the teammate that just is there, but doesn’t put extra time in?  Or do you want to be the teammate that comes prepared, works outside of practice to be better and stronger not only for yourself but also for your team?  Now for YOU.  How do you show up for you?  Hmmm.  Think on that one.

Showing up for me looks like this…

I know that my body feels it’s very best when I get a walk in (preferably outside), practice some sort of yoga (even if it’s 5 minutes), get in some sort of strength training (most days using my own body weight and some days with weights), and fill it with mostly good, healthy food (the donut I just consumed before this was very yummy, but definitely a treat, and does not make me feel as good as the carrots I could have eaten that are waiting for me in the fridge:)).  I know I am going to think more clearly if I take the time to meditate, be still and breathe (again even for a few breaths or a few minutes).  I am more productive and more energetic when I get up early.  My relationships work better and are more enjoyable when I take time to really listen, and make a point to be silly and have fun.

These all have one thing in common…they are all conscious decisions to make them happen.  I have to make the time and choose to do them.  Do they always happen?  Yes.  Okay that would be the answer in my perfect world where there are rainbows all the time, and unicorns and fairies running around (yep I live there much of the time), but this is reality peeps!  So what do we do?  Strive to do our best each day.  And when we don’t get it all done… practice compassion towards ourselves, breath and chill a bit.  Listen, we are all doing our best right?  And if some days you feel like…I’m going to make the choice to show up more…do it!  Love yourself through the process.  Laugh at yourself…it feels so good!!!  Surround yourself with people that you can love and laugh with!  Now get out there and show up!  Peace out:)